Thursday, April 27, 2023

50 Lessons of 50 Series

Back in 2021 I created a series of articles titled, "The 50 Lessons of 50 Years" -- tools for finding peace. purpose, and pleasure while getting older.  Along the way I never completely archived the series,  nor ever had displayed all the articles indexed in one place.  So two years and one-hundred Tub Talks later, I am finally compiling a list of all the ideas with links in one entire post.  I hope they support your journey toward finding joy, meaning, passion, and play as you age as well. 


Turning 50: Let's Do This! 

50. Sex Doesn't Have To Be Scary 

49. This Is Not A Dress Rehearsal

48. It's Okay Not To Feel Okay

47. Forgive Them Father 

46. Just Show Up

45. "It’s Like Something Is Choking Everybody. Only They Don’t Know They’re Choking."

44. Words Shape Experience 

43. You Can Love Yourself by Rethinking "Love" and "Self" 

42. Pain Is Inevitable, Suffering Is Optional

41. "Don't Listen To That Old Bitch In Diapers"

40. Social Media Has No Inherent Power 

39. Life Is Better As A Purple Turkey 

38. Fitting In Can Be Hazardous To Your Health

37. There Is No Universal Consensus Of Sexy

36. No One Opens Their Mind Or Heart When They Feel Shamed Or Attacked

35. Look For The Helpers

34. Helping Others Feels Good (or "Grab A Shovel") 

33. Cause & Effect: The Key To Reduce Suffering

32. We Are All Harm-Reductionists Now 

31. The World Is Not Ending Tomorrow...

30. Consequences Over Cancellations

29. The Simple Joys 

28. You Can Start Again

27. The Dinner Table Approach To Dating Will Leave You Starving

26. Drugs, Distractions, and Decisions: The Three Paths To Peace

25. If You Are Good At What You Do You Will Be Attacked

24. Your Work Vs. Your Job 

23. Stay Open, Remain Curious 

22. I'm Still Here, Dammit (Thank You, AARP) 

21. Love Is Infinite, Only Humans Set Limits 

20. No One Can Make You Feel "Special"

19. "What About MY Voice?"

18. Black Lives Matter To Me

17. Humans Need Touch 

16. Coerced Monogamy Does Not Work 

15. Do You Want To Be The Leaf Or The Tree?

14. Compersion Is Caring 

13. Find Your Role In The Cycle Of Lonely 

12. The Fear Of Fat Is A Gay Rights Issue 

11. The Four Kingdoms Of Consciousness 

10. We Can Be Heroes: 12 People Over 50 Changing The HIV Epidemic

9. Hurt People Hurt People 

8. Compassionate Conversations Are Critical 

7. Joyfulizing vs. Catastrophizing

6. I Stay Up At Night (And Other Space Oddities)

5. Lose The Should To Feel Good 

4. Great Sex = Safety + Agency + Discovery

3. Someday I Will Die

2. Now Is Our Time For Fun

1. The Joy Of Aging: Power, Purpose, Pleasure 

Damon L. Jacobs is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist helping individuals and couples enjoy life with peace, purpose, and pleasure. His books "Absolutely Should-less" and "Rational Relating" help people experience connection with joy, serenity, and meaning. His work has been featured on ABC, CNN  The NY Times, MSNBC, USA Today and more. He can be reached at or 347-227-7707.