Tuesday, September 10, 2024

Tub Talks With Damon Season Three Episode Guide

Season Three of  Tub Talks With Damon provided 40 tubs filled with conversations about life, death, aging, and meaningful connections.   I am posting this episode guide to celebrate and spotlight the brave wet people who have shared their insights, experiences, life lessons, and lots of lots of information about sexual health!  Join us for another dip (click on the title to go directly to the episode):



 Derrick Matthews and Damon
     


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Jon Baker ["The Rectal Reckstar'] and Damon

 
 
Michael R. Jackson of "A Strange Loop" and Damon


 
 
 
Damon and Shake Lukas on Rentboy Arrests


 
Cesar Caicedo-Ciro and Damon



 
 Damon L. Jacobs is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist helping individuals and couples enjoy life with peace, purpose, and pleasure. His series "Tub Talks With Damon" facilitates naked conversations about surviving trauma and gay men thriving while aging. His books "Absolutely Should-less" and "Rational Relating" help people experience connection with joy, serenity, and meaning. His work has been featured on Good Morning America, ABC News, CNN Health, The New York Times, MSNBC, USA Today and more. He can be reached at Damon@DamonLJacobs.com or 347-227-7707
 
 

Thursday, April 27, 2023

50 Lessons of 50 Series

Back in 2021 I created a series of articles titled, "The 50 Lessons of 50 Years" -- tools for finding peace. purpose, and pleasure while getting older.  Along the way I never completely archived the series,  nor ever had displayed all the articles indexed in one place.  So two years and one-hundred Tub Talks later, I am finally compiling a list of all the ideas with links in one entire post.  I hope they support your journey toward finding joy, meaning, passion, and play as you age as well. 

           

Turning 50: Let's Do This! 

50. Sex Doesn't Have To Be Scary 

49. This Is Not A Dress Rehearsal

48. It's Okay Not To Feel Okay

47. Forgive Them Father 

46. Just Show Up

45. "It’s Like Something Is Choking Everybody. Only They Don’t Know They’re Choking."

44. Words Shape Experience 

43. You Can Love Yourself by Rethinking "Love" and "Self" 

42. Pain Is Inevitable, Suffering Is Optional

41. "Don't Listen To That Old Bitch In Diapers"

40. Social Media Has No Inherent Power 

39. Life Is Better As A Purple Turkey 

38. Fitting In Can Be Hazardous To Your Health

37. There Is No Universal Consensus Of Sexy

36. No One Opens Their Mind Or Heart When They Feel Shamed Or Attacked

35. Look For The Helpers

34. Helping Others Feels Good (or "Grab A Shovel") 

33. Cause & Effect: The Key To Reduce Suffering

32. We Are All Harm-Reductionists Now 

31. The World Is Not Ending Tomorrow...

30. Consequences Over Cancellations

29. The Simple Joys 

28. You Can Start Again

27. The Dinner Table Approach To Dating Will Leave You Starving

26. Drugs, Distractions, and Decisions: The Three Paths To Peace

25. If You Are Good At What You Do You Will Be Attacked

24. Your Work Vs. Your Job 

23. Stay Open, Remain Curious 

22. I'm Still Here, Dammit (Thank You, AARP) 

21. Love Is Infinite, Only Humans Set Limits 

20. No One Can Make You Feel "Special"

19. "What About MY Voice?"

18. Black Lives Matter To Me

17. Humans Need Touch 

16. Coerced Monogamy Does Not Work 

15. Do You Want To Be The Leaf Or The Tree?

14. Compersion Is Caring 

13. Find Your Role In The Cycle Of Lonely 

12. The Fear Of Fat Is A Gay Rights Issue 

11. The Four Kingdoms Of Consciousness 

10. We Can Be Heroes: 12 People Over 50 Changing The HIV Epidemic

9. Hurt People Hurt People 

8. Compassionate Conversations Are Critical 

7. Joyfulizing vs. Catastrophizing

6. I Stay Up At Night (And Other Space Oddities)

5. Lose The Should To Feel Good 

4. Great Sex = Safety + Agency + Discovery

3. Someday I Will Die

2. Now Is Our Time For Fun

1. The Joy Of Aging: Power, Purpose, Pleasure 


Damon L. Jacobs is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist helping individuals and couples enjoy life with peace, purpose, and pleasure. His books "Absolutely Should-less" and "Rational Relating" help people experience connection with joy, serenity, and meaning. His work has been featured on ABC, CNN  The NY Times, MSNBC, USA Today and more. He can be reached at Damon@DamonLJacobs.com or 347-227-7707.

Thursday, September 29, 2022

Tub Talks With Damon Episode Guide: Season One

Tub Talks With Damon debuted on September 13, 2021, as way of engaging serious conversations in a silly situation.  70 baths later, we are posting this episode guide to celebrate the people who have shared their insights, experiences, life lessons, and lots of lots of information about sexual health!  Join us for another dip (click on the title to go directly to the episode):  

Sunday, November 28, 2021

Bathtubs, Boosters, and Bears, Omicron!! [A Holiday Update]

On November 24, 2021 I decided to get my fourth shot of the COVID19 vaccine.  The first two doses (Astra-Zeneca) were administered in a vaccine trial in November and December of 2020.  The next single shot (Johnson & Johnson) was given in May, 2021.  Did I medically need a fourth shot in order to have the maximal protection from COVID and its variants?  The answer involved a lot of math, a lot of probabilities, and a lot of maybes.  Ultimately I opted to receive the next dose (Pfizer) because it removed uncertainty, cleared up my ambivalence, and helped me to feel in control over what happens to my body. 

When I made this pre-Thanksgiving announcement on Facebook I received much support from family and friends.  One person, however, whom I would describe as vaccine ambivalent, privately reached out and asked, “So what does this mean?  That you’re going to keep getting booster shots over and over?” My answer:  YEAH!!  I will happily get COVID booster shots as long as it takes.  You’re talking to the same guy who regularly uses PrEP to prevent HIV and doxycycline to prevent STIs.  The idea of utilizing biomedical interventions to enhance my quality of life and reduce harm is hardly an unusual concept for me.

About 24 hours later media headlines started swarming around the World Health Organizations’s announcement of Omicron as a “COVID variant of concern.”   At the time of this writing, there is no clear evidence that Omicron is more likely to lead to illness than the other variants, nor how well the current vaccines protect from this new strain.  But I do know that having an additional booster shot offers me a way to feel proactive, responsible, and empowered about my pleasure and protection, in the midst of more panic and uncertainty. 

Damon in Mike Enders' Tub
This theme of seeking medical and mental safety in times of turbulence and trauma has come up frequently in my new “Tub Talks” series.  The idea of doing naked interviews in a bathtub came to me years ago, when I saw my buddy Mike Enders, aka as “The Accidental Bear” holding court in his tub in San Francisco.  I begged him to let me be part of his show, and we filmed a very fun episode in early 2018.  Mike was already moving beyond his bathtub to focus on animal activism by that point, and I thought eventually I wanted to host a similar type of forum for discussions, dialogues, and deeper lessons about resilience and hope. 

After finishing my 50 Lessons of 50 Series last Spring, I began planning  “Tub Talks With Damon" -
Kareem McJagger In The Tub
...featuring naked conversations with thought leaders, artists, healers, creators, bears, and people who just fascinate me.  All have generously shared experiences of vulnerability, as well as lessons learned from surviving pain.  Everyone who has visited my Tub has deepened my appreciation for overcoming obstacles, fighting to gain a sense of safety and control after dealing with traumatic setbacks, and using their experiences of adversity to help improve the lives of others. 

Monday, September 13, 2021

Tub Talks With Damon Premieres Today

On this pilot episode of Tub Talks, Damon learns from Matt how he transitioned from occupational therapist to sex worker. What are the pros/cons of doing porn and sex work, and how can we celebrate the beauty of our bodies as we get older? 
 
Plus - Why the heck are we doing interviews in the bathtub? 
 
 

Monday, July 19, 2021

10 Years Of Taking PrEP

I began using PrEP 10 years ago today.  I'm clarifying some myths, fears, and inaccuracies in this statement.  Please take time to learn more at PrEP Facts: Rethinking HIV Prevention and Sex!